How to improve communication skills? 🤔

Wise man speaks because he has something to say ,fools say because they have to say something.

In nowadays world being good communicators is very important. 
By having great communication skills you can win people get a promotion  or earn respect in society  today  we will discuss  about 7 points that help you to become a good communicator. 

1. Listen before you speak.

Have you ever noticed  why some people are hated by everyone that's because they only speak, speak and speak they never listen .

Everybody wants attention and everybody  to express their opinion, if someone doesn't  allow you to speak how do you feel?

Advantages of listening skills.

1. To specifically focus on the messages being communicated, avoiding distractions and preconceptions.
2. To gain a full and accurate understanding into the speaker's point of view and ideas.
3. To critically assess what is being said. 
   
   
4. To observe the non-verbal signals accompanying what is being inteand rested  to enhance understanding.
5. To show interest, concern and concentration.
6. To encourage the speaker to communicate fully, openly and honestly.
7. To develop a selfless approach, putting the speaker first.

If if shuffle listens it becomes silent 😶  lesser you speak more your value is

5 ways to improve listening skills.   

1. Face the speaker and give them your attention

If you look around during a conversation the listeners will think you aren't interested. Also that's annoying. Make sure to face the speaker, maintain eye contact, and give them your undivided attention. In Western cultures, eye contact is necessary for effective communication. 

2. Keep an open mind

Don't  judge, Critize or absolutely dismiss their this will reduce your ability to understand your point.

3. listening Actively 

Everybody loves attention and wants to feel important, if you listen with interest it will not only impress clients , it will also help u to learn about them.

4. Don't judge the speaker on your past experience  with him.

5. Don't interfere  even if you  disagree. 

2. DON'T GET OFF THE TRACK.

Always talk on topic , If you got a chance to speak always talk on topic if you go off track it will lead the listener lose his interest.

Never talk about  your past generally  people are not interested  in your past. 

Never divert conversation  towards you if you can't answer and diverting is the only option left divert it towards listeners.

3. Don't  try to take command. 

Never put yourself  in the centre, try to make another person centre of your conversation,  they will surely  like that.

 Nobody likes to take orders if you want something, try saying in a requesting manner, rather than giving orders.

Don't act like babies  and complain if they are not paying interest just simply switch the topic of their interest many people start complaining if they are not listened. 

4. Ask Questions. 

When I say, ask questions that doesn't  mean bombard them with questions. 

Many people specially relatives bombard you with questions without listening  you . That's annoying 

Ask some questions in which they are interested and again use listening  skills don't ask too many questions. 

When you ask questions the person think himself as a part of conversation and shows interest everybody  likes to speak and express their opinions,  so ask some good questions. 

If they aren't comfortable  with answering  try playing a game I used to play with my gf, in starting we became freinds  she is really not comfortable  with me because  our opinions vary a lot. So she doesn't  want to answer all my questions. 

So I said  "I'll ask you a question and you will ask me one."  By doing this she thinks I am also answering she is not only who faces questions. So she started playing with me. And she also   answers the toughest questions without any hesitation. This became a game not conversation. 

5.Even if they are wrong don't fight .

Many people try to establish  their opinions  forcefully even you know facts,  and you are right don't fight .

Just simply show you side by using words like,

In my opinion or I think this should be like this . Don't forget you are not his/her enemy.

6. Apply 3 filters.

Before saying anything  get it passed from 3 filters.

1. Is it right?

2. Is it nessary?

3. Can I bear if someone  said it to me?

7. Don't use filler words like aa,umm.

It's okay to take time and become silent before speaking to skip this silence people use filler words but that's okay to take 2 min time think and then speak by doing this you'll show the person that you are thinking what they have said and you are taking them seriously. 

 

 8. Listen to what's left unsaid.

Focus more on nonverbal side of communication instead on verbal sometimes many people are unable to express  themselves.  So try to connect and understand their feelings instead of complianing for what isn't being said just . 

9. Listen to understand not to reply.

Most of the people listen in intend to reply not to understand, More you can understand more you can connect . Focus on understanding the person and his feelings nowadays everybody wnat to put out their intrest but no one try to understand. 

10. Practice practice and Practice. 

Practice makes man perfect

Even you understood points you learned what not to do and what to do without practice everything  is useless we learn from our mistakes,  try to communicate a lot talk to many people if you are feared to talk or an introvert you can try random chatting sites and practice your skills with stranger for ex omegle and etc.

             Written by 

                                  Shivnath Pandey